I just had a pretty cool hang out with a friend, and it helped me realize something: when I'm vulnerable, you can all be vulnerable, too.
A lot of people, and a lot of people I listen to, walk around with all the answers. And that's not a saying. They really seem to know what's going on, and that's awesome. I, however, am not them. While there is no self for me to be, even that is more vulnerable than saying I think I know who I am. In truth, this life is a process, a work in progress, and there's definitely no end goal or destination (besides death).
Anyway, what this means is: I'm giving myself permission. Permission to be 100% how I am at an given moment. Maybe it's not what I think "perfect Ben" looks like, but you know what? Perfect Ben doesn't exist. Neither does perfect anyone.
So give yourself a break. Give yourself allowance. Give yourself permission. You are a process, not a product, and you will never get it right. So just do your best, and remember everyone else is doing the same, so give your friends permission, too. And your enemies. Especially your enemies.
A lot of people, and a lot of people I listen to, walk around with all the answers. And that's not a saying. They really seem to know what's going on, and that's awesome. I, however, am not them. While there is no self for me to be, even that is more vulnerable than saying I think I know who I am. In truth, this life is a process, a work in progress, and there's definitely no end goal or destination (besides death).
Anyway, what this means is: I'm giving myself permission. Permission to be 100% how I am at an given moment. Maybe it's not what I think "perfect Ben" looks like, but you know what? Perfect Ben doesn't exist. Neither does perfect anyone.
So give yourself a break. Give yourself allowance. Give yourself permission. You are a process, not a product, and you will never get it right. So just do your best, and remember everyone else is doing the same, so give your friends permission, too. And your enemies. Especially your enemies.
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